Your Vacation Starts Where the Rubber Meets the Road

I’ve been on my fair share of road trips.  They are a part of every summer for our family.  The best advice I can offer a newbie, is to go to sleep and when you wake up three days later, you’ll be in Texas – only joking.  In truth, many times a vacation is more about the journey than the destination. Road trippin’ combines the freedom of the open road with the confines of a vehicle.  It juxtaposes the convenience of travelling by your own timetable with the challenges of covering great distances in a limited amount of time.  Road trips are intense.  Your family may not literally be in a nutshell, but a Volkswagen Westfalia isn’t much better. My REAL advice is to keep your itinerary reasonable.  Think about everything you’d like to do and see, over the course of your trip.  Now scale it back to what you can actually accomplish, in the time you have available, and then scale it back to less than you think you can manage.  The harsh reality is you won’t be able to do everything on your wish list.  The trip will suffer delays, there will be unexpected detours, and traffic jams that nobody saw coming. Some of the amusing circumstances that have slowed my road trip progress include, but are not limited to:
  • Nasty weather
  • Accidents
  • Construction
  • The Mystery Spot
  • Customs
  • Goats
  • Speeding ticket
  • Forest fire
  • Landslide
  • Emus
  • Train derailment
But, if you’re like me, you’re not listening to my advice.  You’re going to have to get in over your head and learn about itinerary limitations the hard way. But if you are listening, take it from my experience: Before we were parents, my husband and I took a road trip around Europe.  We started in Britain and, after an overnight boat ride, we went through the Netherlands, Germany, Austria, Italy, Switzerland, France and back to the Netherlands.  It sounds awesome doesn’t it? We had one week to accomplish all of that.  It was a blur.  I vaguely remember being in an IKEA somewhere in Germany…there was a Leaning Tower and an Eiffel tower and a couple of parking garages…ya, I don’t remember much.  We’re going to have to do some of those countries over again. Road trips let us experience the dizzying highs and the crushing lows of family togetherness.  Occasional arguments and grouchiness are par for the course.  Your 11-year-old may abuse your ears with the tweets and squeaks of a souvenir tin whistle, all the way from Nova Scotia to Ontario.  Mom and Dad may stop speaking to each other, for a while, after a misunderstanding about an off-ramp.  But, you’ll look back and laugh…ah hahahaha. While, on the down side, you won’t be able to escape your family, on the up side, your family won’t be able to escape you.  If you manage to survive all that togetherness, you’ll know each other better and have a fresh collection of shared experiences. Part of pacing your trip is understanding your family’s limitations. How long can the kids sit before they go crazy? How long can Mom and Dad drive safely before switching or taking a break? Plan games and activities to participate in together, (eye spy), but also allow for individual activities, (books, ipods).  Even within the confines of a vehicle, everyone is entitled to some alone time. Once you have a reasonable plan and schedule in place, you’ll be happy to discover the many advantages a road trip has to offer. One of them is cost.  While the price of gas is all over the headlines right now, it is still less expensive to pile the family into the car, than purchase airline or even train tickets for the group. Setting your own itinerary helps control costs in other ways too.  Having the ability to drive off the main tourist track can allow you to find quality food and accommodation at a discount.  If you bring a camp stove along, you can tailgate some of your meals.  If you bring the rest of your camping equipment, you can save the cost of a hotel and keep your budget lean and mean. Roaming the highways of the world has afforded us some unforgettable experiences.  We’ve encountered elephant seals while driving the Pacific Coast Highway.  We’ve gone off course to climb the highest peak in Australia.  And there are so many unusual landmarks to spot:  Cadillac Ranch outside Amarillo, the Ace of Clubs House in Texarkana, or the flying saucer in Moonbeam, Ontario, just to name a few. Road trips offer a lot of variety.  Driving around, you get to see the best and the worst.  The richest neighbourhoods and the hoods you might be glad to leave.  You have the opportunity to glimpse into people’s lives in a way that wouldn’t be possible if you were traveling by any other means. You may go from the middle of a major metropolis to the dead centre of nowhere in the span of a day’s drive. Motoring around Northern Ontario a couple of summers ago, we persevered along a desolate stretch of Highway 11 where, for three hours, there was absolutely nothing.  Not a house, not a restaurant, not a gas station.  We couldn’t receive any radio stations.  Logging trucks were the only other vehicles we saw – and there weren’t many of them.  You know that song “I’d sure hate to break down here.  Nothin’ up ahead or in the rear view mirror.”  That’s where we were!  It was eerie and strange but also, kind of hardcore. A road trip may be the adventure your family needs.  You’ll have the chance to really see and experience everything along your route.  Give yourself lots of time to stop here or there, take advantage of the photo ops, and see the country through your children’s eyes.  Bring some snacks, play some games and have a great family vacation this summer.  May the road rise up to meet you. – Jen R, Staff Writer

Perfect For Travel ~ Maclaren’s Globetrotter Stroller

Well known for their practical, lightweight travel gear, Maclaren is set to introduce another stroller that will undoubtedly be popular with traveling parents. The Globetrotter, the newest addition to the Maclaren line up, weighs just 10.6lbs and will carry your child until they are 55lbs. It is appropriate from ages 6 months and up, has a 5-point safety harness, generous canopy, features lockable, front swivel wheels and foot-operated linked parking brakes. Very similar in design to the company’s popular Volo, the Globetrotter also has one feature that traveling parents consider a must – the seat reclines. We’ve all been there. Out for the day seeing the sightings and your toddler decides to nap. While my first son could sleep anywhere, my second one was more particular and needed an incline. This is where the Globetrotter is great. It doesn’t fold flat, but there is a slight recline to make an afternoon nap a little more comfortable. When it is released the Globetrotter stroller  will be available in five colors – black, crown blue, scarlet, festival fuscia and prince blue. In November Maclaren announced they would be moving to one global safety standard, which ensures that all of their buggies will meet or exceed the highest safety standards mandated anywhere in the world. This includes a permanent universal 5-point safety harness, a tether strap, foot operated linked brakes, and a protective head and foot barrier on all from birth models. We love their collection for travel because they are so compact, easy to push and comfortable for our little travelers. Now with the Global Safety Standards parents around the globe will like that the stroller they purchased in Australia has the same great safety features as the ones in North America or the UK.

Featured Review ~ Reisenthel travel e1

Whether you are travelling as a family or for a couples weekend, its important to have a good tote that will hold all of the gear you will need when leaving the hotel for the day.  My go-to back for the last 5 years has been my reisenthel XL shopper.  I picked it up in Aruba during a cruise and have used it on every trip we have taken until this year when I replaced it with reisenthel’s travel e1 expandable bag. Similar to my XL shopper, the travel e1 is a generously sized tote that is made of reisenthel’s sturdy canvas.  What makes it better for my family is that it has a zipper that allows it to expand to almost double it’s size when you need it to hold lots of supplies.  It also has a zipped closure to prevent your valuables from falling out or being seen by passers-by. While away in the Caribbean recently this bag was a lifesaver because it was able to store everything we needed for a day out including 4 beach towels, sand toys, my camera and a snack bag.  There is also a side pocket for smaller items and a hidden pocket, which is located on the bottom of the bag to hold room keys or id. On the way down I loaded it up with the boy’s blankets, a bag of activities for each one, 2 iPads, a Macbook and two snack bags. The shoulder strap is adjustable to allow it to hang perfectly off the back of the stroller whether the bag is empty or fully loaded. In addition we have used it a couple times as an overnight bag because it holds enough clothes for the whole family if we are just going away for one night. This bag comes in 4 fabrics; red, black, silver and fleur black so there is something for everyone.  I like the red because it stands out so I can spot it right away.  Priced at $55 the travel e1 bag is a great durable choice for travelers looking for a bag that will carry everything and last more than one getaway!  

Merida Coming To A Theater and A Disney Park Near You!

Disney•Pixar is set to debut their fantasy adventure film Brave on June 22, 2012, but beginning in mid-May, Merida, the film’s feisty teen will be coming to Disney Parks in an all-new character greeting experience. The Disney Parks Blog reports that, At Magic Kingdom Park, Merida will appear in Fairytale Garden in a setting inspired by her Scottish Highlands home, where young guests will be invited to engage in archery lessons and other activities until it’s their turn to meet her. Also joining the Merida are three mischievous bear cubs, whom fan will learn more about when “Brave” debuts in theaters. At Disneyland in California, Merida and the three playful bears will find a home away from home near “it’s a small world” in Fantasyland, where guests will also be able to participate in activities inspired by Merida’s story. Creative Director Reed Jones says,
“These new play and greet experiences at both parks will immerse our guests in ‘Brave,’ giving them the opportunity to be a part of Merida’s Scottish clan. And we’re all excited to have the bear cubs join Merida with their silly antics, creating a whole new way to bring our beloved Disney Characters to life.” “Regardless of where they find Merida,” said Reed, “Guests are really going to fall in love with her and the bears.”

Celebrating Cherry Blossoms in Washington DC

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At this time of year, Washington DC and Tokyo, Japan bear one striking resemblance.  It’s cherry blossom time and both cities have erupted with clouds of lacy pink and white blooms. To mark the occasion each year, Washington DC hosts the greatest springtime festival in the whole of the United States, the National Cherry Blossom Festival.  This year’s festival is on now and extends through April 27th, which by no coincidence is Arbor Day.  The festival is five weeks of family events, most of them free. This year’s festival is special because it commemorates the 100th anniversary of the gift of cherry trees by Japan to the American people.  Nearly 100 of those gifted trees are still alive and can be seen at the Tidal Basin.  They are cared for by the National Park Service. The National Cherry Blossom Festival has a great lineup planned to celebrate their centennial and plenty of new innovations.  The Petal Pass has been introduce this year, by Capital One Bank as a way to offer special discounts and bargains during the festival.  The Petal Pass can be acquired, free of charge, at any of the 240 Capital One Bank branches in the area.  The Cherry Picks Restaurant Program involves close to 100 local restaurants, all offering cherry-, blossom- and spring-inspired menu additions, during the festival.  A number of area hotels have special packages available throughout the festival as well. The Southwest Waterfront Fireworks Festival takes place at dusk on April 7th and features a display by the city of Nagaoka, Japan, (known for their own 2-day fireworks festival). This is the first year the national Cherry Blossom Festival Parade will be nationally televised.  It takes place on April 14th and is co-hosted by Katie Couric, Alison Starling and Leon Harris.  Alex Trebek will act as a special correspondent.  The parade proceeds down Constitution Avenue and, much like the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade, features performances, floats and giant helium balloons.  It is free to stand along the route.  Seats in the grandstand are $20 a piece.  Following the parade; stick around to enjoy the Sakura Matsuri – Japanese Street Festival.  Admission is $5. Come to the Canon Performance Stage at Sylvan Theater on the Washington Monument each day from March 31-April 5 to take in over 100 free shows.  From April 19–22, enjoy Jazz at the Jefferson. In conjunction with the festival, visitors interested in exploring Japanese culture have a host of rare opportunities.  There are currently three exhibitions of masterworks dating from Japan’s Edo-period.  Colourful Realm:  Japanese Bird-and-Flower Paintings by Itō Jakuchū is open at the National Gallery of Art.  Masters of Mercy:  Buddha’s Amazing Disciples and Hokusai:  36 Views of Mount Fuji are both on display at the Smithsonian’s Arthur M. Sackler Gallery. Additionally, National Geographic Museum is exploring the influence of Samurai’s on Japanese history and culture through their exhibition of Samurai:  The Warrior Transformed.  For music enthusiasts, The Kennedy Center presents Overtures:  S&R Foundation Artist Concert Series, featuring award-winning Japanese artists. The National Cherry Blossom Festival offers all this and so much more.  There is still plenty of time to experience the sights, sounds, aromas and tastes of the festival.  It truly offers something for everyone. – Jen R, Staff Writer

Adventures by Disney’s Expanded 2013 Lineup to Include Southeast Asia

Adventures by Disney has released some details of their expanded offerings for 2013.  Whether you like your adventures star studded or far flung, there is something new in the works for you. On a jaunt to Hollywood, inject a little Mickey, with the first single-day tour offered by Adventures by Disney, the new “Lights, Camera, Magic,” tour of Los Angeles.  Gain special behind the scenes access to the Walt Disney Studios and The Walt Disney Company headquarters.  Then, hit the streets – some very famous streets, like Rodeo Drive and the Sunset Strip.  All the glitz and glamour of Hollywood, old and new, is yours to discover during this one day adventure. If you prefer your travel with a dash of the exotic, you may be enticed by the fragrances and flavours of Southeast Asia.  Vietnam, Laos and Cambodia make up the itinerary of this experience. Once ravaged by wars and violent government regime, this part of the world is only now finding its place on the tourist map.  Draped for years in mystery, this region is a secret that is begging to be unlocked. Adventures by Disney has made Southeast Asia accessible, not only to experienced travellers, but to families.  Through this tour you’ll have the opportunity to experience the cities of Saigon, Hanoi, Hoi An, Luang Prabang, Siem Reap and Angkor Wat. One of the great advantages to travel with Adventures by Disney, is the way they gear the experience differently for the age groups that are participating.  For example, at Cambodia’s Angkor Wat, adults will have the opportunity to appreciate the unrivaled architecture of the ancient temple, while children learn about its history through a tuk tuk treasure hunt. Other activities on the roster include a hands-on experience at an organic rice farm in Laos and a cooking class in Vietnam that takes the whole family through their dinner’s journey, from market, to preparation, to table, all with the guidance of a local chef. Families will also be enthralled by excursions like horseback riding through rural villages in Cambodia, and a visit to a school in Laos.  What an unforgettable experience for the kids – and Mom and Dad too! Two knowledgeable guides will lead families through the tour and take care of all the details.  It’s beautiful accommodation, like the luxury you’ll enjoy at the Sofitel Legend Metropole Hanoi, and private transportation all the way.
“We are thrilled to invite families to experience new corners of the world with Adventures by Disney, as we expand our portfolio of more than 20 destinations to include Southeast Asia,” said Josh D’Amaro, Vice President, Adventures by Disney.  “This exotic new itinerary holds true to Disney’s dedication to storytelling, exceptional customer service and incredible value.  With our award-winning itineraries, families are treated to a worry-free experience, perfect for vacationers taking their first international excursion or even the seasoned traveler.”
More details and dates for the expanded 2013 lineup will be posted on the Adventures by Disney website in late spring. – Jen R, Staff Writer

Sol Rio De Luna y Mares, Holguin Cuba: A Home Away From Home

Cuba’s Holguin province has been known for its beauty since Columbus discovered America – literally. In November 1492, Christopher Columbus landed on the northeast coast of Cuba and found himself in an idyllic paradise. Attempting to describe his discovery, he declared it to be, “the most beautiful land that human eyes have ever seen.” Perhaps a touch of hyperbole, but he wasn’t far off.  Between the mountains and the ocean you’ll find a vacationers dream, complete with wide sand beaches, sky scraping palms and lace petaled orchids.  The cars are classic, the horses and goats graze freely along the road side and teams of oxen still work the land.  It is a place like no other. I recently had the pleasure of visiting Holguin province, while vacationing with my husband at the Sol Rio De Luna y Mares – a lovely resort in a stunning setting. Once two resorts, the Luna and the Mares have come together to provide guests with a wealth of amenities and an enviable expanse of beach front. The brown sugar coastline and shimmering blue waves are a sight for winter-weary eyes.  It’s like the world suddenly goes from grey-scale to Technicolor.  Cuba boasts a reputation for some of the world’s most beautiful beaches and Playa Esmeralda is one of the crown jewels. The span of beach at Sol Rio De Luna y Mares is bookended by an eco preserve on one side and the five-star Paradisus Rio de Oro on the other.  You can expect uninterrupted relaxation, plenty of space, lots of loungers, an absence of beach vendors and zero hassle.  The resort provides a range of equipment, for water sports, so when you just can’t sit another minute, you can flaunt your kayaking skills or take up windsurfing or snorkelling. Now, before we get into the specifics of the resort, it’s important to put things into a Cuban context.  Cuba is the sort of place where nobody locks their door, because nobody’s lock works.  Resources are limited which means your room may have dated decor, and something is likely to be broken.  Government policy, international relations and economic limitations all play a role. But don’t let that scare you off.  Cuba is a study in ingenuity, practical problem solving and environmental sustainability.  Cuba has a fantastic education system, which means the man at the omelette station may speak six languages and the bartender may be a qualified surgeon.  There could be problems, but the brilliance of the solution will often surprise you.  It is a fascinating place to visit, and worth tolerating the odd inconvenience. When we checked into the resort, we were given a room in the Mares building.  The Mares rooms have not been renovated yet, while the rooms on the Luna side have been updated.  Our room was in need of a spruce up, but overall it was fine.  The decor was tired and a little shabby, but the room was clean.  Our balcony door didn’t lock and it was difficult to get the entry door to close securely.  The bed was two twins pushed together and there was (in my opinion) a creepy mural overhead.  We could have muddled through, but I wasn’t thrilled with the room so we agreed to stick it out for the night and ask for a change in the morning. The next morning, our request for a switcheroo was accommodated without so much as a raised eyebrow.  We were moved to a room on the recently renovated Luna side, in the highly sought after 7000 block.  This block is popular because it is quiet, close to the beach and offers fresh and cheerful decor.  FYI, for some reason the Luna side also gets more TV channels than the Mares. Our new room was on the third floor.  It had a cathedral ceiling with exposed woodwork and an ocean view that was to die for.  An ocean view room can be reserved ahead of time, for a premium, but as it turns out, you could get lucky and score one for free. Throughout the resort, all rooms are equipped with air conditioning, a coffee maker, fridge, hair dryer, an umbrella, and a safe to secure valuables. The hotel supplies soap, shower gel and shampoo/conditioner, but they are quite harsh.  It is a good idea to bring your own products, especially if sensitive skin is a concern. The grounds of the Luna y Mares are beautifully designed and immaculately maintained.  The variety of fauna throughout the grounds boggles my Canadian mind.  It actually pains me to think of the plants we could grow if our climate was more hospitable. The flowers, trees and shrubs start out in a small nursery, tucked off to one side of the property.  They are transplanted into their permanent positions by the army of gardeners who work ceaselessly to maintain the exceptional grounds. The resort is quite big, but not huge.  There are no shuttles to carry you between areas, but we didn’t find that we missed them.  It was pretty easy to get around.  The pathways and buildings were fairly accessible, for individuals with mobility issues.  Parents with strollers seemed to navigate the property without difficulty.  There were a few areas that could be problematic for wheel chairs, though I never witnessed anyone having any difficulties. There is an elevator to the upper floors of the Mares building. The buildings on the Luna side are accessible on the first floor but upper floors are restricted by stairs.  Even the walkways are terraced by steps, on the second and third floors. The food in Cuba has a reputation for being bland and mundane, that said, the food at the Sol Rio De Luna y Mares was quite good. The Colon buffet puts on a good breakfast spread.  The food was always hot.  Don’t bother with the bread, in the morning, as it tends to be stale.  The buffet offers a good variety, and will suit a range of pallets.  Eggs and omelettes are made to order.  The Colon is praised for its selection of cheeses, fruits and upscale fare such as smoked salmon. The best cappuccino on the resort is at the snack bar by the Luna pool.  It also became my favourite spot for lunch.  The food is made fresh, to order.  I loved the pizza, topped just how I like it – absolutely delicious.  They also serve an assortment of sandwiches and delicacies like chicken cordon bleu.  This snack bar is open 24/7, so if you’re foraging for late-night fries, you’ll end up there.  We spent quite a bit of time there.  It is very relaxed and the staff is friendly – far more laid back than the frenetic lobby bar. There are several delicious options for dinner.  Stick with the Colon buffet for easy casual dining, or try one of the four à la cartes specialising in – French, Italian, Cuban and beach front Romantic fare. The buffet offers plenty of variety and fantastic desserts during the dinner service.  The specialties change each night so there is always something new to try. You are guaranteed two à la carte reservations each week.  I recommend using them to secure seating at the high demand restaurants – the French in particular and also the Italian.  We found that by dressing appropriately and arriving shortly after the first seating began, at 6:30pm, we could be accommodated at the Cuban and the Romantic restaurants, without reservations. The French restaurant is raved about by everyone who tries it, and is in very high demand.  The service there is a cut above and the atmosphere captures the elegance of a dinner in France.  They extend little touches and details to create a gracious fine-dining experience.  I thought the food was good, though in my opinion, the other à la cartes were equally delicious.  Each of the restaurants executes a unique and flavourful dining experience. For me, the best part of our stay at the Sol Rio De Luna y Mares was the location.  As I’ve already mentioned, the beachfront is amazing and that’s what it’s all about for a lot of holidaymakers – give them a frilly cocktail and a lounge chair and they are set for the week.  But I’m that annoying person who gets bored, after a while, and starts bugging everybody to “go do something.”  I love to explore and would feel absolutely trapped if I was stuck in the confines of the resort for a whole week.  I liked the Luna y Mares because we had access to cheap and cheerful excursions to occupy a couple of hours each day.  The animation staff offers guided jaunts around the area, each morning. The resort is right beside Las Guanas ecological and archaeological park.  An easy walk next door and you’re in the jungle, experiencing the flora and fauna of the area and gaining an understanding of pre-colonial life. The Luna y Mares is only five kilometres from Guardalavaca.  We rented bicycles from the resort one afternoon and peddled through the gorgeous countryside to the market in town.  My bike sucked a bit…OK quite a bit, but my husband’s was fine and once I’d peddled off the cycling cobwebs it ended up being a really nice afternoon.  If you’re not feelin’ the rickety bike rental, you can always hop on the double-decker bus and see the town in comfort. The gentleness of the countryside, around this resort, is both calming and restorative.  It’s a beautiful area to walk through.  We spent hours, one afternoon, adventuring through the woods, finding secret coral beaches and unexpected bars with cheap rum and cola. That in itself, the simple freedom to go for a walk off the resort, is quite an endorsement for Cuba as a whole.  There are many beautiful places to visit in the Caribbean, but some vacation hotspots leave travellers feeling wary to leave their resort, particularly if they are travelling with children.  In Cuba, however, most visitors feel quite comfortable exploring the towns and rural areas outside the gates of their resort. It is that sense of safety and security, combined with the friendliness of the people, the beauty of the country and the time-capsual’esque nature of daily life that brought me back to Cuba this year and will undoubtedly draw me back again.  And if we were to visit the Holguin region again, I would love to make Sol Rio De Luna y Mares my home away from home. –Jen R, Staff Writer

BRICA Introduces Roll ‘n Go Car Seat Transporter

The newly released BRICA Roll ‘n Go Car Seat Transporter turns a child’s convertible or forward-facing car seat into an efficient stroller.  As many parents know traveling with kids comes with a lot of gear. A must have for most families, the car seat can be cumbersome, especially if you want to use it on the airplane. The Roll ‘n Go Car Seat Transporter attaches to the back of the seat to turn it into a rolling chair.  This eliminates the need to manoeuver a stroller and car seat through the airport.  Plus it ensures that you have seat you are familiar with when you arrive at your destination.
The Transporter has a telescoping handle that makes pulling it comfortable for anyone.  Its wheels fold into the body for easy storage in a plane’s overhead compartment.  This feature gives the Transporter the slimmest profile of any similar product in the industry.  It also stores easily in a small car or closet.

The Transporter is ready to use out of the box — no assembly required — and is now available for $79.99

Understanding the Effects of Culture Shock

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Some animals operate on instinct, one hundred percent.  Take the aligator, for example.  They are born ready.  They don’t need parents to supervise them, they don’t need to learn anything specialised, they just hatch and go.  Human beings are not one of those animals. People don’t have a lot of instincts.  We’re born with a few.  Some people claim to have extraordinary “gut” instincts.  But in general, we don’t have a lot going on in that department.  To be blunt, humans are not born with the skills to survive. In lieu of instinct, mankind has developed culture; a means of passing on the knowledge we have gained, generation after generation, to help ensure our survival in different environments.  For example, the best way to build a house in the Arctic is not the best way to build a house in the Amazon and vice versa.  We have to figure this stuff out and then pass it on to the group. Culture pervades every facet of life; how we speak, how we dress, what we eat and whom we find attractive.  Culture also informs are social norms.  It dictates the nuances of polite conduct and acceptable behaviour. And it varies.  Widely. So it’s not surprising that travelers, of all ages, experience anxiety and confusion when first exposed to a new culture.  Any family intending to travel into a vastly different culture, particularly if it is to be a long-term immersion, should understand culture shock, its symptoms and phases, before departing. The term “culture shock” was first coined by Canadian anthropologist, Kalervo Oberg in 1954, and refers to the stages of adjustment that affect all people as they encounter and settle into another culture. Oberg described culture shock as, “the anxiety that results from losing all familiar signs and symbols of social intercourse.  These signs are the thousand and one ways in which we orient ourselves to the situations of daily life:  when to shake hands and what to say when we meet people… “These cues, which may be words, gestures, facial expressions, customs, or norms are acquired by all of us in the course of growing up and are as much a part of our culture as the language we speak or the beliefs we accept.  All of us depend for our peace of mind and our efficiency on hundreds of these cues, most of which are unconsciously learned.” The basic phases of culture shock, outlined by Oberg, are still recognised today. Most travelers don’t hang around long enough to move past the “Honeymoon Stage”.  But, longer exposure will eventually lead to deeper culture shock. While the initial exposure to a new culture can be marked by stressors like jetlag, drastic changes in climate and disorientation over differences in lifestyle and standards of living; the honeymoon stage is typically a phase marked by enthusiasm.  It can last weeks or even months. During this phase, the traveler finds cultural differences exciting, quaint and even amusing.  Throughout this stage, travelers often reside in hotels, where the staff may speak the visitor’s language and may be acquainted with their customs. This could also be called the Tourist Phase.  The traveler is really only getting a superficial look into the country and its culture.  They are seeing what is accessible to a person who is not integrated into daily life, and they are not typically subjected to the frustrations that accompany the local grind. Occasionally, circumstances lead travelers to remain long enough to enter the second stage. Phase two is not nearly so pleasant. At this stage, the newcomer starts to become entrenched in the daily grind while continuing to be ill-equipped to navigate their new life with ease.  Travellers become frustrated and often a little bit hostile.  They blame the host society for the discomfort they are experiencing. It is common to form cliques with fellow expatriates for comfort and support.  Within these groups, members may start to inflate the virtues of their country of origin while tearing down the new culture, without objectivity or appropriate prospective on either.  During this phase, newcomers will resort to stereotyping their hosts – and not in a nice way. And, according to Oberg, it doesn’t matter how open-minded the traveller is, going into the experience.  Given enough time and frustration, at not having our cultural bearings, we will all go through this phase. We are each limited to our own experience and interpretation of the world.  Culture is so subtle and so deeply ingrained in each of us, that it is difficult to accept another way of doing things, without making value judgements. If the traveler makes it through stage two, without returning home, they will enter the “Final Adjustment” phase.  During this phase, newcomers begin to accept the host culture and see the customs as different, rather than wrong.  They adapt their behaviour and life becomes easier.  Sense of humour returns and the traveler may even become self-deprecating.  At this point, return to the country of origin will likely result in reverse culture shock. Naturally, everyone exhibits culture shock to different degrees and at different paces.  As a family, you may find that some members are coping better than others, or that one member has moved onto a new phase while another is lagging at the phase before.  Some may even move back and forth through the phases, progressing and regressing on a day-to-day basis. It is a very complicated issue.  The more disparate the cultures are and the longer the immersion, the more likely it is that culture shock will take a toll. It is important to recognise that the discomfort and anxiety brought on by culture shock is genuine and that, given the right circumstances, it happens to everyone.  It is not a sign that someone is ill-suited to travel or that they are closed-minded, or arrogant.  It means only that they are human and humans have difficulty integrating into a completely different way of life. Common signs that a member of your group is experiencing culture shock include:
  • Preoccupation with cleanliness.  This can relate to excessive fears about the drinking water, food, dishes and bedding.
  • Irrational fears of being robbed, cheated, or injured
  • Feelings of helplessness.
  • Excessive frustration over minor problems
  • Dependence on expatriates from the country of origin
  • Refusal to learn the language of the host country
  • A strong desire to return home and be surrounded by familiar people and places.
Some people will be more prone to severe culture shock than others.  While there’s no way to avoid it completely, you can take steps to ease the grief it may cause.
  • Learn as much as possible about the culture you are going into, the customs, the food, the social graces and taboos.
  • Understand culture shock and its phases so you can recognise it for what it is and attempt to regain objectivity.
  • Perhaps the most important thing you can do is learn the language.  Learn as much of the language as you can, as quickly as you can.  This will help you integrate, make acquaintances, ask for assistance when needed and ingratiate yourself to your hosts.
Speaking at least a little of the local language is useful, even during the tourist phase, particularly if a crisis situation arises.  Are the locals putting the sandbags up or taking them down?  Take my word for it, when that question crops up, you’re going to want to be able to ask it. In the end, culture shock is part of the experience of travel.  It is jarring.  It awakens our consciousness and it opens our eyes to the many ways people live around the world.  I believe it’s worth it to experience at least a little culture shock because it leaves us with a better sense of our place in the world…a peek at the big picture. While it may be painful at the time, I think the perspective that follows a bout of culture shock is a gift worth sharing with our loved ones; children included. – Jen R, Staff Writer

The Taj Experience

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When you see the Taj Mahal for the first time, there is an immediate sense of awe that grips you. Because you might have seen a hundred pictures of the monument, but the digital image somehow fails to capture the beauty of the real thing in its grand 3D avatar. My family and I decided to visit the Taj Mahal in Agra over a long weekend. But what could have been a mere 4 hour drive, turned out to be a punishing 7 hour journey with traffic jams stalling our movement every few miles. We had simply overlooked the fact that like us, many families had chosen exactly the same weekend for the trip! By the time we reached Agra, it was already 4.00 in the evening and we had lost all hopes of witnessing any of the glories of this enchanting Mughal era city in those dusky hours. The Mughals The Mughal Empire ruled India for thousands of years and unlike other invaders who planned to loot the treasures of the country, the Mughals made this foreign land their own. They successfully combined their Muslim traditions, art and culture with the prevalent Hindu dominant population and thus laid the foundation of the multicultural integrity called India. The Mughals were also very generous to give India some of its greatest architectural marvels like the Red Fort in Delhi and Agra, the Fatehpur Sikri fort and palace, and of course the cynosure of all eyes, one of the eight wonders of the world – The Taj Mahal. Quite sure that we would have to wait till the next morning for our encounter with the fabled white marble mausoleum, we decided to go for an evening stroll. It was then that a tonga driver saved the day. Agra still has many erstwhile tonga (horse ridden carriages) running through its streets. When one old man approached us, we knew it would be fun and so hopped in enthusiastically. “Should I take you to the Taj Mahal?” the old man asked. Puzzled, my husband in turn questioned him, “Is it not approaching closing time?” The man replied assuredly, “Oh no! The monument closes at 7.00. It is in the winter that it closes at 5.00.” He didn’t need to wait for a reply. The horse seemed to understand our excitement too as it galloped through the narrow lanes and brought us within minutes to the main entrance. White Marble Fantasy The Taj Mahal was built by the Mughal Emperor Shah Jahan in memory of his wife Mumtaz Mahal who died in 1631. Its perfect proportions and exquisite craftsmanship have been described as ‘a vision, a dream, a poem, a wonder’. In that era, it cost the emperor nearly 41 million rupees (approx. 8.5 million USD) and 500 kilos of gold. About 20,000 workers worked for 22 years to complete this ode to love. The entire Taj complex consists of five major constituents, namely Darwaza (main gateway), Bageecha (gardens), Masjid (mosque), Naqqar Khana (rest house) and Rauza (main mausoleum). From the end of the gateway to the central tomb are the famous mughal gardens. It is as much the beauty of the symmetrically aligned fountains, pools and the trees that make the heart sing praises of the yesteryear artists as the main tomb whose impressive figure seems to reach for the sky with each approaching step. We were concerned though of yet another natural element that could derail our visit. Rain clouds were hovering above the Taj and the cool breeze was indication enough that showers were not far behind. But instead of spoiling our trip, the darkening skies gave a perfect picture opportunity with the Taj rising like a white diamond in the dark backdrop. Taking cover from the light drizzle we ran up the steps inside the main Taj structure and were immediately mesmerized. While from a distance Taj Mahal looks immensely beautiful and grand, on closer inspection you realize that the overall beauty is actually a combination of many finer elements that have been each carved to perfection. There is for example the white marble screen daintily carved from a single block of marble and which was meant to veil the area around the royal tombs. In the centre there is the Emperor and his beloved wife’s cenotaph on a platform. The actual graves though lie is a dark crypt below, closed to the public. Up close you also get to see the famed Pietra Dura(above) work where intricately carved floral designs inlaid with precious stones embellish the austere marble surface like a bejeweled casket. The recessed arches provide depth and the give the tomb a mystical aura. And then of course, there are the four minarets framing the tomb and highlighting the perfect symmetry of the complex. It is widely believed that the Taj Mahal was designed to represent an earthly replica of one of the houses of paradise. As we came out of the main mausoleum, the eyes fell on the full moon that was shining bright on the night sky, and the heart skipped a beat. Standing next to this exquisite creation on the banks of River Yamuna, we could indeed feel the aura Taj cast on every onlooker. Iridescent and majestic, the house of paradise shimmered in the moonlight, and we stood there…spellbound.  Travel Tips
  • Best time to visit Agra is from July to March. Temperatures can be scorching from April to June
  • All hotels can provide the entrance ticket to the Taj Mahal if requested. Ensure that you get yours at the hotel to avoid line-ups up at the monument.
  • The monument is open Saturday through Thursday from morning 6.00-7.00 am till 5.00 pm in winters and 7.00 pm in summers. Visitors can also see the monument in the moonlight on full moon days.
  • Food items are strictly prohibited inside. You can carry only water bottles.
  • Visitors need to remove their footwear at the main tomb. If requested, you can cover the footwear with bags available at the entrance to the tomb.
  • You can easily travel to Agra by air, rail or road. For road trips though ensure that the day does not fall on a public holiday.
  • Most visitors come to Agra just to see the Taj Mahal, but other monuments like Fatehpur Sikri, Agra Fort, Tomb of Akbar etc. are as skillfully created as the Taj and definitely worth a visit. Do mark at least two days in your plans for the Agra trip.
  • Taj Mahal looks different during different times of the day. An early morning visit is starkly different from a moonlight view.